A Year Gone By


It was 6 a.m. The phone rang.

I knew.

I answered.

“Grandma passed away last night.”

I didn’t cry.

I got the boys ready for school. I got ready for work. I followed my routine. It was Jan. 22, 2012.

A year has gone by.

I spoke with her the day before she died. She laughed. She asked about her honeys.

My grandmother’s death was sad. It wasn’t tragic. She was 86 and a half. She’d lived a full life. She’d married a rock star. She had an army of friends – both on this side of life and those waiting for her on the other. Her funeral mass was packed to the gills.

And it seemed only fitting that the funeral director announced a reception for “Wendy” would be held following the service (totally not her name).

A year ago and today, Southern California boasted a balmy 80 degrees following a serious cold snap – as though she was making sure we all knew she was somewhere on the other side sitting on the beach sipping a fruity beverage of the adult variety.

“My kind of weather!” she would have declared. “Time for a tan and a chocolate. Suck it January.”

Everyone handles loss in a different way. Some cry. Some pack their emotions down and withdraw. Seven stages of grief and all.

Losing a grandparent is not unexpected. Circle of life and all. (Still pisses me off.)

I still think about her. Hell – I named my kid after her. (That would be Search.)

And in the words of my cousin Nancy:

Its a cottage cheese, See’s Candy and Somewhere over the Rainbow Day. It is also fitting that Camarillo broke the heat record yesterday and is set to do it again today. ♥ and great memories W

Things don’t always play out the way they “should,” but nevertheless, some people touch our lives in a way that never leave us. No matter what.



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4 Responses to A Year Gone By

  1. Gramma J

    Sniff. We miss her every day.

  2. Joanne Hamann

    OH, Double Sniff – never was there a better friend, lady, mom, grandma – I could go on and on – thanks for keeping her memory alive!

  3. That is so great that she got to meet your kids.

  4. Nancy Welker Caracciolo

    Thanks for the quote / shout-out. Yep, GrandmaJ and Aunt J we miss her everyday too.

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