This whole line of discussion got started with writerâ€™s block. (You see what happens when you leave us writers to our own devices? And also likely wine.)
I was working on my contribution to â€œIâ€™m Too Sexy for my Catâ€ over at This Is Mommyhood. (Trust me, youâ€™re welcome.) And, as part of my due diligence research, I asked my friend Adam who he thought was sexy. And he defined it.
My kindergarten teacher wrote on my report card, â€œTricia spends too much time playing with the boys.â€ (Perhaps, but I can play a mean game of pickle.) Over the years, Iâ€™ve had the opportunity to hone my own definition of sexy.
So, as promised â€“ my take on what makes a man sexy. The female perspective. (Hereâ€™s a secret â€“ us gals arenâ€™t that complicated.) Letâ€™s start with the basics.
Yup. Not going to lie. Thereâ€™s a little bit of shallowness in us all. That initial â€œlust at first sightâ€ idea plays a role in determining sexiness. Granted, we all have different standards of what is attractive, so I wonâ€™t get into too many specifics (all about abs and arms for me). But ultimately, sexy is someone who makes me smile when I look at them.
Also, I canâ€™t resist a man in uniform. This brings me to my next point.
My first celebrity crush was Orel Hershiser of the 1988 Los Angeles Dodgers. (Tangent â€“ 5 is my lucky number. Hershiser was #55. Coincidence?) I am not making this up.
Donâ€™t worry â€“ Iâ€™m not saying you have to be a ballplayer (unless youâ€™re a left-handed pitcher, in which case that is the best pickup line ever), but it truly is tremendously sexy to notice that a guy takes care of himself. (Especially if you expect that of us.) And also that he wonâ€™t break. Because that would be icky and unfortunate.
Despite the modern year, a hint of chivalry is also nice. So I kind of like the thought that you could back me up if needed.
I need to have intelligent conversations with a guy. Education is hot. Iâ€™ll admit to swooning over the correct use of a semi-colon. (This is presuming we are speaking about a guy I actually get to have conversation with. Celebrity sexies can just sit there and look pretty.) But as a fully admitted book nerd, a quiet, unassuming intelligence will make me swoon every time.
Major points for making me laugh. Funny is really an over-simplification â€“ but sense of humor is key. And bringing things full circle, this positive personality trait greatly enhances attractiveness. A sparkle in your eye and a fabulous smile are sexy. The ability to make *me* smile is SERIOUSLY sexy. (Again, back to point #1.)
But hereâ€™s the secret sauce that ties the above four traits into a tidy package of five. (Lucky number, remember.)
Believe in yourself. Take pride in who you are. And you can easily create the illusion of all of the above.
Please note â€“ there is a distinctly fine line between confident powerful poise and douchbaggery. Do not cross this line.
But just this side of that line? Youâ€™re gonna make me smile.