I made it through six years at Chaparral Elementary School without being sent to the principal. Destroy made it three weeks.
It didnâ€™t surprise me. I mean, come on, the kidâ€™s name is Destroy. And he does.
The first time it was a physical altercation because a â€œkid was in my way.â€
For longtime readers of this blog, it will come as no surprise that Destroy is a more than a little hyperactive and impulsive. Discipline is something we worked with all through preschool. The first time the â€œbehavior callâ€ came during the nascent elementary years, I thought perhaps this was since the kids arenâ€™t allowed to run free â€“ only organized games during recess and lunch â€“ so a kid like Destroy with major impulse control issues would easily get bored and flail about. (Note: Not saying this is ok, just that I think I understand where his mind was.)
The kid he hit was in the wrong place at the wrong time. There was no actual malice intended. Instead, Destroy had a thought pop into his head, â€œI wonder what would happen if I punched you.â€ He then said, â€œIâ€™m gonna punch you!â€ Then <whamo> a date with the principal while the poor other kid tried to figure out what just happened.
Fire. Aim. Ready.
Iâ€™m also on a first name basis with the school nurse. We have a growing stack of â€œHow to handle head injuryâ€ forms because personal space awareness is not Destroyâ€™s forte. Heâ€™s run into a pole no fewer than three times.
Destroy is a spirited little boy. He has a heart of gold and a Ferrari brain with bicycle breaks. We decided to have him tested for ADHD.
The kiddo was Out. Of. Control. And he was getting worse.
Weâ€™ve all heard about ADHD. Over-diagnosed and over-medicated leading to a generation of zombie kids. But even Destroy was frustrated with himself. Heâ€™s a smart kid. He noticed that he was singled out at a table in class, sitting by himself because the teacher realized he couldnâ€™t function with his peers. He recognized that he was in trouble every day, noting, â€œSometimes I just have too many energies. Iâ€™m having a rough day.â€
Meanwhile I was doing an interpretive dance involving wine and my middle finger while chanting, â€œFUCK YOU PREMATURITY.â€ Something needed to be done.
For the initial evaluation, I had to take a scantron test. I havenâ€™t had to take a scantron test since high school. Scrantrons stress me out. Jon, Destroyâ€™s teacher, and I all had to evaluate the kid. There were several tests inquiring about his varying abilities and coping mechanisms. A therapist spent a session chatting with him. His tushy never touched the couch.
â€œI would be SHOCKED if the final evaluation doesnâ€™t come back positive,â€ the therapist stated as Destroy tripped over a dust bunny and wiped out on his way back to the waiting room.
Would I put him on medication if thatâ€™s what was recommended? It was about 99% positive thatâ€™s precisely what would happen.
In the interim, we were busy scheduling conferences with the teachers to see if the muppets would be flunking kindergarten needed the gift of time. Fear not, Iâ€™d already decided I wouldnâ€™t separate them. Because that would be too emotionally explosive.
They will always be in the same grade.
And now one has been officially diagnosed with Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder.