Holding the boys back a year is not an option.
Because this would mean they’d turn 19 during their senior year of high school, repeating kindergarten would make them ineligible to play high school sports their senior year. Granted, they are currently terrible at said sports…
But it wasn’t a gamble I wanted to make based on giving my son an extra year for maturity. Especially when the issue wasn’t immaturity but rather a rapid-fire brain misfiring signals. Left to his own devices, he would be bouncing off the walls throughout the entirety of elementary school no matter how many years that lasted.
ADHD is a popular joke. We’ve all heard about it. But is it really just raucous boys being boys? Is there really an affliction or are some little guys just adventurous troublemakers?
ADHD is a neurological disorder. It is a brain-based medical issue that does not discriminate against age, gender, or intelligence. You do not “grow out” of ADHD, this one’s ours for life.
Talkative, fidgety, forgetful, impulsive, risk-takers, restless, procrastinators, willful, stubborn, frustrated, multi-taskers, danger-seekers. Always on.
Interested is witnessing the effects of ADHD first hand? Destroy is available for rent.
Behavioral color cards didn’t work. “I tried to be green, but then I wasn’t,” Destroy would explain at pick up each day.
If asked, why he did something, you would receive a genuine and honest, “I don’t know.”
All to often I would find myself trying to contain a tantruming boy so far gone into his fury that it was easy to physically see the disorder taking over. Synapses in his brain snapping like twisted rubber bands.
“So. How do you feel about medicating?” our pediatrician asked.
I didn’t hesitate. “Let’s do it.
I’ll get snarky about all the alternative treatments in a future post.
But as someone with a mental disorder brought back to life by medication, myself? Sold.
The medication for depression and anxiety that I take doesn’t make me less of myself. It gives me the ability to be myself. Destroy has a disorder that we can fix.
I believe in science. Because it works.